Online dating is not the same as face-to-face dating. In real life, you can go all out: with a killer stare, that flirty body language, the faces you make, and even the tone of voice you use. But when you're online, your first message has to be more forceful because a simple "Hi" isn't going to cut the distance by any stretch of the imagination.
We've already given this issue some thought and we're going to share with you 10 ways to start an online conversation like a crack and get to know your sugar baby desired
1. Introduce yourself, there is no loss
"Hi, I'm (your name) - nice to meet you!"
Sounds basic, doesn't it?right? But believe me, introducing yourself properly makes all the difference compared to a dry "Hey". A well-done introduction shows you have manners and, besides, it's something you would do in person when meeting someone new. So, drop your name with confidence, let them be left open-mouthed by the confidence you project and you'll see how they will have no choice but to respond.
2. Check out their profile
It is obvious that the first thing that pulls you in a dating app are the photos. But don't just go for the image alone, take a look at what they have written in their profile before sending the first message.
This shows that you're not just looking at the physical, but that you've taken the time to read what they post and that you even care about the details. For example, if you see that they have a picture with their puppy, throw them something like: "What a cute dog, what's his name?" The gang loves their pets and always sign up to talk about them.
3. Ask about them
So, you've already checked out their profile and it turns out they're also into water sports. What a coincidence, because you do too! There's a perfect start for you: "I love water sports too, what's your favorite?"
Having common interests is a plus in any relationship. People are attracted to those who share their tastes. But don't worry if you don't agree on tastes, showing genuine interest in what they like is just as important.
4. Be direct and straightforward
Online dating can be exhausting, that or what. And sometimes, the band appreciates it when you're direct with what you're looking for when you're on these apps.
So if you're interested in someone but you're not clear what they're looking for, drop them something like: "I'll cut to the chase, what are you looking for here?"
You may think you need a huge dose of confidence to blurt something like that out, but trust me, this type of direct question almost always gets an answer.
5. Eagerly praises
Did their bio or one of their photos catch you? Don't hesitate to use that to your advantage and throw them a compliment to break the ice. We all like to receive a good compliment, don't we?
Just make sure it's something sincere, no hollow compliments that you just repeat for the sake of saying something.
6. Add a little flirting
There's nothing wrong with starting with a flirty little message, just don't go overboard. Being too intense can give the impression that you are only interested in something physical. Here are some examples:
- "I'm interested in you, what are you going to do about it?"
- "There's only one way to make my day better, and that's if you talk back to me."
- "If being sexy were a crime, you'd be guilty."
7. Propose an appointment from the beginning
If you've already checked their profile and you're sure you're a good match, go straight to proposing a date. A simple one: "Some drinks this week?" or "I know a great place to eat, would you like to join me?" may be all you need.
8. Ask them an unusual question
When someone asks you a question in real life, the natural thing to do is to respond. It's no different in online dating, so take advantage of it.
- "Which is your favorite Spiderman?"
- "Are you more of a dog or cat person, why?"
- "What's the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?"
9. Drop a pickup line
Pickup lines can be a total hit on dating apps. One study showed that pickup lines get more attention than basic compliments and can even lead to better online hookups. If you're the type who enjoys a good joke or has that cheeky touch, this might be your best strategy. Here are some gems:
- "Are you sure your name isn't WiFi? Because I feel a connection."
- "If you were a triangle, you'd be sharp."
- "Do you like raisins? How about a date?"
10. Be authentic
Yes, I know it sounds cliché, but being yourself is the most important thing. Authenticity is charismatic and engaging. When you send that first message, trust that you represent the best of yourself, and that will lead you to connect with the right people.
Now that you know how to break the ice in an online conversation, here are a few things to avoid:
1. The H
What are H's? Well, those generic, lazy openings like "Hi," "Hey," or any variation of these boring greetings. Not that they're not appreciated, but when you get five "Hey's" in a row with nothing else, it's hard to get excited.
People put a lot of effort into their online dating profiles, so the least you can do is avoid slipping into their DMs with the H's.
2. Messages without thread
Have you ever had to talk to someone who jumps from one topic to another endlessly? This is the online version of that, and believe me, it's maddening. Instead of dizzying the person with so many topic changes, focus on one that interests you and keep the conversation flowing naturally.
3. Repetitive questions
We are in a quandary between whether this or threadless posts are worse. Asking repeated questions like "What are you working on you said?" o "Your favorite color is blue, right?" shows how uninterested you are. It seems like everything they tell you goes in one ear and out the other.
Before continuing, ask yourself if you are really interested in this person. If not, don't keep cajoling them with repetitive questions. And if you're really interested, show that you're paying attention.
4. Ghost effect
Ah, the famous ghosting. This happens when one of the parties suddenly cuts off all communication without explanation or warning, just out of the blue.
Ghosting is a sign of disrespect. As defined by Men's Health, it's a rejection, only without giving it closure. Don't make ghosting your style. If you feel there's no more spark or interest, say so. You don't need to drag your feet, but at least show the same respect you would like to receive.
5. Intense messages
There are all kinds of people sending messages, but the one who sends messages intensely is the one who bombards you with unnecessary texts such as "Hey, I just woke up" or "I'm going to the bathroom hahaha." If this sounds familiar, maybe you should slow down.
Understand that not everyone is glued to their cell phone 24/7, they may be busy or just not responding right away. It is better to limit the texts and send only what is necessary.
It is not as complicated as it seems. Sí, writing the first message can be nerve-wracking, but once you get the courage to send it, there's no stopping you from sending another one. Rest assured, you got it!
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